Body language is a great gauge of how a relationship is faring. An outsider can analyze your private relationship if they study a couple's gestures and movements.
You see a couple on the far end of a home renovations store, making decisions about their new home decor. They're too far away to figure out the conversation. But it's a sure shot that this is one happy couple. Why? The expression on their faces, the way they stand, the amount they touch each other and the constant eye contact they make every now and then brings you to that judgement.
Body Language can tell you a lot about what is happening in a relationship in so many ways. Is somebody feeling distant, having second thoughts, or are they going to go home rip off all your clothes and make wild, passionate love to you as soon as you close the front door. The clues are in the body language of your partner.
Let's take just walking to a destination for an example:
Things that say you are in sync are great. You are walking in about the same pace, side by side. Holding hands is another positive. If you go to look at your partner and admire them they should automatically return the admiration. There is a process known as mirroring in psychology and NLP which stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP goes as far to say you should copy the persons mannerisms, body language to get more in rapport with a person. This shouldn't be necessary as if you are connecting well you and your partner should be in sync already. There have even been studies that say heart rates get similar.
Warning signs for walking exists when couples aren't in rapport. If somebody walks far ahead or behind they both have meanings. Far ahead would mean they just wish to lead, and get away from their partner. Somebody who walks far behind could be scared of their partner, and feel intimidated by them.
If your partner crosses the street and gives absolutely no verbal or non verbal signals it is also a negative sign.
Now sitting is another example that can be used. Look at a pair of newlyweds. You'll see a lot of times they sit next to each other in booths at a restaurant not across from one another. They tend to remain close to each other no matter what. A family with a close mother and father do the same thing even when kids are involved. A partner I'm dating might even sit sideways facing me in a car when they are really into me.
Couples with good body language will take the time to connect all the time. The will face towards one another and when distractions stop will reengage each other in connecting. This can be done with kissing, holding hands, eye contact, or conversation. Their bodies should be angled towards each other and physical contact is done quite often. Another sign in a restaurant is both of the couples are eating in proportion to each other.
Negative signs are when somebody doesn't connect during breaks. They instead read a menu again, look out the window, play with their purse or engage everybody but the person they are will. Their bodies are probably angled away from each other and physical contact in minimal. If somebody is eating a lot of their meal and the other is hardly touching their plate something is going on. The person hardly touching their plate is probably bothered by something.
When a couple is in sync they connect on a much deeper level they just physical. There should be a strong mental aspect. Eye contact is one of the biggest things both partners should be able to freely look into each other's eyes during sex. Touching, holding, kissing is usually all a natural occurrence that happens during love making. A clasp of the hands with your partners, eye contact and others signal a much deeper connection. Partners should be willing to give pleasure as well as receive pleasure.
Some warning signs could be closed eyes , in a stiffness in the shoulders and neck. These signal coldness, anxiety
Be aware of the nonverbal communicate you have with your mate. There was a research study done by a psychologist known as Albert Mehrabian. His findings were it's not what you say but how you say it that really matters. Verbal communication only accounts for 7% of the total communication we communicate.
Examples of Positive Body Language:
An emotionally connected couple will always walk side by side. One will not lead the other, or suddenly change course of their path without communicating his intentions.
You will notice that they tend to touch more often. They might hold hands, the male might lightly hold the female's lower back, or one might simply touch the other one's arm or shoulder occasionally.
Happy couples tend to look into each other's eyes every few minutes in a social gathering; but are secure enough to go about meeting other people. That said, they will not spend the whole evening doing their own thing.
The biggest judge if a couple is in sync with one another is if they are mirroring each other's actions. If they are at a restaurant, both will be on the same course. If one is still on appetizers and the other is already ordering dessert; something is amiss.
Notice how newlyweds tend to lean in towards each other and if one touches or kisses, the other one will reciprocate. Mirroring here implies even adopting each others' mannerisms.
EXAMPLES OF NEGATIVE BODY LANGUAGE:
Dominating partners: The dominating person puts their hand on the other one's shoulder ever so often. Another clue is watching a couple go shopping. See a husband impatiently walking ahead, not wanting to stop every time his wife does? The non dominating husband would patiently stop beside her instead of striding ahead. And the one that is dominated by his wife will be willing to spend all day waiting for her to finish!
Egoistic partners: If one of the two has his head tilted upwards, chin in the air; he is full of pride. This could be his defiance to prove his individuality also. A woman has her arm draped over a man who just lets her tag along with his own hands in the pocket. He is either disinterested or is egoistically walking around to show off his catch. He should be maintaining frequent eye contact or reassuringly touch her hand that is around his arm to show he cares.
Deceptive partners: How do you know one of the two is lying? Avoiding eye contact, frequent swallowing, scratching in front of ear and head are some of the nonverbal signs that one is trying to hide something. Alternatively, a poker straight face with zero expressions and minimum speech also shows deceit. If he/she is trying to hide something they might also shower you with praises.
You know these things because you observe your spouse. Observation is especially helpful to gauge when to open difficult topics. When you foresee a doozy of a discussion, your first step is to figure out what his or her body says, then plan your moves accordingly. We hope this article helps!